For the anon that asked about graduate recruitment, some sororities are allowed to take grad students, but there are more that don’t. It will automatically eliminate houses, and that’s if your university even allows grad students to rush. The best way to find out is to contact the Greek Life office and ask about their policy on that and how many houses can take grad students. Good luck!
The fact that alumni are attacking her and saying hurtful things is awful. Hazing is demeaning and you shouldn’t have to treat another person as if they were lesser than you to portray a sense of sisterhood. That doesn’t bond you together, that creates fear. If I were her, I wouldn’t consider those girls my sisters either. I wouldn’t want to associate with other women who think that behavior is okay. Good for you for standing up against hazing!